Shehab and I have one rule for our fights; no one goes to sleep angry. However, I often break the rules. I didn’t realize it, but that anger from the day before does carry on with you the next day. Sometimes it haunts your dreams, and it’s not a fun feeling. Especially when your partner has released that negative energy.
So how do you resolve the issue:
The last thing you should say every night is
Goodnight and I love you. It sounds a little cliche, but these words do have a large effect on you.
Now Shehab and I don’t say goodnight, and I love you to ignore a fight, we say it at the end when we completely know that the tension is resolved. It’s our signal to say it’s ok, and we’ll be fine.
I love this about Shehab. As I’ve disclosed before and you’ve figured out, sometimes I let negative energy and anger get the best of me. I tend to hold grudges, especially when hurtful things have been said. No matter how bad our fights get, Shehab constantly repeats the following, “Babe, I love you” or “Ishika, I love you so much.” I don’t want to hear it half the time, but when I walk away and calm myself down, those reassuring statements do help a lot.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, even in times of conflict don’t let your anger get the best of you. Sometimes just taking a breath or thinking things through can help. Like I said, no matter how angry Shehab gets, he’s yelling and then there’s a “but, I love you” it’s actually kind of adorable.
When you love each other, you can overcome any obstacle or conflict. However, don’t ever let yourself go to sleep with anger or frustration. End it that day, because it will flow onto the next day. I’ve realized the consequences of breaking the rules. Always go to sleep with a Goodnight, I love you!
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